So, I have a question for all of you out there. Have you noticed that since your child (or yourself shoutout to Val! ) was diagnosed with Type 1, that they have become harder on themselves? I've noticed this trend in Emma's behavior over the past 3 years and it seems to be getting worse. I definitely hope that I am not doing something to make her feel like she has to be this way. I have actually spoken with her teacher a couple of times last year about it because Emma is NOT fond of making mistakes. It upsets her to the point of tears sometimes honestly. I have tried talking with her about it and explaining to her that the only way any of us will ever learn things in life is by making mistakes. I've tried telling her that it doesn't make her less smart or less special or less of a good girl if she does make mistakes. I have told her that she needs to give herself a break and try to realize that it's ok and that she will be ok. I've had these conversations with her numerous times over the years and at the time she always sees the reasoning and tells me that she will try to think of things like that next time...and sometimes it works for her for a while...but then it seems like she is right back to being too hard on herself again.
For example this evening we went swimming at a local pool here just to have some fun and try to cool off (it was well into the 100's here today...set record temperatures actually for the hottest July day on record!). Well, Emma is comfortable in the water...but she has never actually taken swimming lessons. She has an aversion to getting her face wet and getting water in her eyes...which would make taking lessons a pointless effort I think. I always envision horrible crying and freaking out episodes poolside when I consider signing her up. So, anyway...I've been trying to start teaching her the basics of swimming myself. Granted I'm no Michael Phelps...but I do know how to swim.
So, there we were practicing floating on her back and her stomach...just to get the feel of it. She was doing quite well actually, so we moved on to kicking her feet and moving her arms to stay afloat on her own. That was not coming so easily for her...which brought on the tears of frustration for her. I asked her what was wrong and she shouted, "I JUST WANT TO GET IT ALREADY MOMMY!" For anyone that knows my kid, they will know that she does not get riled up like that or shout at me ever. It breaks my heart to see her be so hard on herself.
I think a lot of it is that she really is very smart...and she's used to picking up on things super quickly...so when certain things come along that require more time and patience to learn or master...she gets overwhelmingly frustrated with herself. Any advice out there? :o) I need to stop beating myself up and blaming myself for this I suppose...but I guess it's what I do...I'm a Mom.